Opinions… Choose: Frozen canals or blazing hot sunshine!?

Opinions matter…and everyone is always having theirs.

 

What’s your opinion on that? What would you choose? What do you think? What would you prefer? Who do you support? 

I’m always inclined to prefer extremes be passionate about really outspoken things and have really clear opinions. I Love SUPER sweet, or SUPER salty… I LOVE the blazing hot summers or the really cold freezing and snowing winter days. I root for the underdog, I think this planet and animals should be protected more, I feel like the first world complains way too much, and I think this world has way too much injustice.

When I love something I tend to go completely overboard. I can get lost in following a series and don’t want to watch anything else for 7 seasons 15 episodes each. When I love a drink or some food I will just drink or eat that thing until I can’t stand in anymore. I LOVE certain trends or fashion, or I think it’s absolutely hideous. I Really Really REEEALLYYY love plants in my home. And everything with natural materials and textures!

“I am an open book… yes you may know my thoughts. But ask me again tomorrow, and I don’t know if the answer will still be the same.”

I know that some of these things are just a matter of taste or opinion, and some a matter of “right or wrong” and some a matter of perspective, knowledge or information.
I am an open book… yes you may know my thoughts. But ask me again tomorrow, and I don’t know if the answer will still be the same.

I can switch my opinions and preferences or how I feel about something just like that. Because a preference or opinion isn’t like a birthmark… you aren’t born with opinions or preferences. Nothing is set in stone, once you’ve developed an opinion about something, It’s not a lifelong decision. I’m allowed to change my opinions or preferences.

It feels like some people make us feel like your opinion is supposed to be cour identity. The essence of who we truly are. Making it shameful, weak or event tradeful to change our opinions, to change our minds, to evolve. But most of the time those preferences and opinions are dependent on your knowledge. So if you are a stubborn person who clenches on to his opinion or preferences despite new information that might prove you otherwise… well that isn’t a very wise thing to do, isn’t it!? I feel that that is just bitter, stubborn, proud, and short-sided. Maybe even a lack of intelligence maybe!? I’m not sure… but It feels wrong to me.

A lot of the times an opinion is also a judgment on someone’s address… like I just did back there:
“I feel that that is just bitter, stubborn, proud, and short-sided. Maybe even a lack of intelligence maybe!? I’m not sure… but It feels wrong to me.” That’s not a nice thing to hear if you feel it applies to you. But it is the truth about what I was thinking while typing this.
So should you always share your opinions!? Probably only if someone is asking you directly or if you think it’s really important to share it because it is something people just NEED to hear. Even if they maybe won’t like it. And you never know, if you might even hear some new information or gain a new perspective that will change your mind if you are open to it and flexible enough.

“I prefer to say “I don’t know” Because I just don’t know how I feel about it.”

In some cases on some topics, I prefer to say “I don’t know” Because I just don’t know how I feel about it. Because I don’t have enough Information or I need more time to process the incoming data. Knot knowing is ok too. It’s a nice place to stay and just observe.
Mostly on things like a new song or new fruit gets me confused, and I need to taste or hear it more times to “get to know” all the different details in texture and rhythms and flavors happening. Of some things that are happening in the world… sometimes I just decide, I don’t know what is true or false anymore, I Just don’t know what to think or feel. and it all will make me feel powerless angry and depressed. I don’t have to save the world. Let’s make it a better place one little bit of the time.

So I never feel guilty about changing opinions or preferences. Next step is to not feeling guilty sometimes about being happy and privileged to be living somewhere where my kids can be safe and grow up being happy, while others in the world are not! I Just wish Everyone in this world would be safe. And that’s something I Find hard to accept.

“I will be shouting on the top of my lungs:  “THIS IS MY FAVORITE TIME OF THE YEAR”.”

So I’m going to enjoy the winter days and hoping for snow and frozen lakes and channels. If my prayers get answered I’m going to shout on the top of my lungs:  “THIS IS MY FAVORITE TIME OF THE YEAR”
And a few months later I will be hoping for hot sunshiney days and when it comes I will be shouting on the top of my lungs:  “THIS IS MY FAVORITE TIME OF THE YEAR”.

And it all will be the truth because I will mean it every single time!

Blog by: Jolanda Marti
Photography: Michiel Fook

Throwback: Mountains of Montcada, Barcelona

Last year, I thought: “Let’s give the blogging thing another go after 10 years of not blogging!”
I took my Instagram name and looked if the Website URL was still available. And it was!
So Wild & BOHO was going to be my new blog. Since I’m a video maker, I wanted to start a vlog channel on Youtube and see If it was something for me.

Ever since high school I’ve been blogging and photographing my life. More like a personal online diary for everyone to read.
Somehow it worked therapeutically for me! For more than 8 years I Blogged purely for myself. And then Facebook came… Sharing my stories, experiences and thoughts got much easier on there. The more content I posted on Facebook the less content I posted on my blog until I got pregnant and realized I hadn’t written any posts in 3 years. I Downloaded all my content from the blog and shut down the website.

Now, 3 kids, a Home, Lots of travels, A Instagram profile and 7 years later after Stopping with blogging I felt the need again for a place to Post our stories, Photography, video’s, opinions, tips, tricks, favorites and everything else that we want to share with our followers…

So here’s a throwback photo series we’ve made between baby nr.1 and baby nr.2
December 2014 on a mountain we were visiting my family in Spain close to Barcelona, and we went for a hike on the mountain and I took some of my new dresses with me to shoot some photo’s next to a historic site called Ermita de Sant Pere de Reixac

So this is one of the photo series I’ve Posted on Facebook and was one of the first photos I’ve uploaded on my Instagram account but never on a blog.

I have so much fun throwback stuff that’s backed up somewhere…Like the pregnancy self-portrait photo’s I made of myself and the ones Wouter Keuris made of me! Lots of #Vanlife Roadtrips and lots more!  Maybe I’ll do a #Throwback Blogpost on here once in a while…
Might be fun to look back and see where we’ve been up to in the last couple of years…What do you think? Good idea or rather “stay in the NOW”? Let me know in the comments below!

Photography: Michiel Fook
Text: Jolanda Marti

To the Moony and back

Having small kids, a career, wanting to have a free life and travel a lot, running a household can be a bit much sometimes!
Having extreme happy moments, and then the extreme overwhelming exhaustion kicks in! Feeling so tired at the end of every single day I tend to get a bit frustrated. Will this ever get any easier!? Everything is such a struggle. Never a moment of peace. Always moving, always something or someone to take care of, clean, work, manage.

But at the end of the day, I go through the pictures of the last couple of months and I realize… Years from now I will probably look back and see that these are the happiest years of my life! The childhood of girls, seeing them grow up, and experiencing so much love in our little family is the best thing that ever happened to me!

Our family photo’s always have been so important to me. And as soon as I tend to forget how lucky I am (because all parents know… this parenting thing is HARD and completely exhausting) I Flip open one my photo albums and my heart just opens up, my racing mind just calms down and I get this wave of gratefulness that just washes over me like a Tsunami of LOVE!

Photo’s make me remember what my heart already knows but what my head is to busy to notice. Looking at our photo’s is a tool to help me just stop and be mindful, it helps me realize how many good things are happening right now! And most important, It helps me focus on all the positive, instead of on the few negatives in my life!

Therefore I would say having photo prints and/or albums is improving my quality of life! And it’s so valuable to have as we will grow older and our lives, the world, and the people around us will change too. Photos are little time capsules. Great to have to lay around, amazing to be able to give your children as they grow up.

There are so many advantages to having photo’s in print! It just basically makes me really really really happy whenever I look at them. I got so inspired by that feeling of happiness while flipping through my new Moonylab book that I decided to make this happy little video with our DJI drone!

Moonylab is offering all of my followers a 10% discount using the code Wildandboho10 while placing your order!

Check out our video, and then the backstage Images below that Michiel took from me while I was shooting this video!

Hope you enjoy my outburst of happiness in this little experiment-video.
I put the video on my NEW InstaTV channel for the world to see!
Would you like to see more of these short videos on my Instagram?

Love,
Jolanda Marti

a vanlifers homebase

We are #Vanlifers, but we do have a home build of stone and wood with a big yard and a safe garage for our treasured van to seek shelter from the harsh winter climate Holland throws at us.

HOME
So in Wintertime, we seek shelter in this place we call home.
Our home where we hibernate, restore our tiny home on wheels, celebrate the holidays, build a snowman, hike through the frozen fields of Waterland and prepare ourselves for the next summer.

Our home interior reflects who we are as a family. All our 5 characters, hobbies, passions, needs, tastes, experiences and preferences are present in every single space.

Our travels in our beloved van is a huge part of our lives. Those memories belong to the best times of our lives and our hearts just fills up with love and excitement just thinking about all the adventures to come.
So to represent this part of our lives we found this two gorgouse Graphic-art prints that reflect our travels perfectly!

When I saw these two posters from Vissevasse immediately thought of a few of our own photo’s we took years ago that had exactly that feel to it!

We love nature and we really like to take nature into our home. We have a big collection of plants and palms in our home. It turned in quite an addiction… to collect as many beautiful green plants and place them in every room and corner to clean ur air, provide oxygen and make us feel happy!

Our home also feels like a place we can plant our own roots. A place we can grow old in. A place we feel safe and worm. And a place filled with Love, Beauty, and Memories.

Home is where the heart is. My heart is always with my family, so on the road, our home is our van, and when we are not traveling, here is the place we love to stay.

The educational system and us

This girl is a dreamer. Always with her head in the clouds and living in her own reality.
Sometimes if you carefully watch you can see it in her eyes. That moment… Her checking out of our reality and stepping into her own. And I love that about her.
In class, she has trouble concentrating on what the teacher has to say and I totally get that… What she has to say is probably totally boring to her anyway.

I look at her and I see Myself as a 7-year-old. I was just like her, and I had a terrible time learning in school! I didn’t see the point in some skills I needed to learn and I heavily resisted and resented the whole learning concept. Not because I couldn’t… but just because I wouldn’t. It was BORING!!!

Soi got a big old stamp “not too bright” “disobedient” and “lacking concentration and focus”.
What the reality was… I was just bored, totally not interested in the knowledge they offered me, and full of imagination, curiosity and creativity. Things like different cultures, nature, history, philosophy, music, and arts were my favorites in the early years.
Later came reading and writing. And only when I got much older I started liking mathematics.
The thing with me is, when I get interested in a subject, I’m a sponge! I learn really fast. I actually get a bit obsessive on it for a while until I have it down. And I just know, Miley is exactly the same!

It frustrates me that in the educational system here in Holland there is so little room for kids who are more creative and less focused on the structure and routines other people live by. I see a happy little kid, but I also see a frustrated teacher. Who would like to see her “try harder to focus”.
And to be honest, I’m ok with her not learning certain things… I think she excels in other things. I prefer to feed and explore those talents than push for something that she isn’t interested in.

After this summer all her friends are going to the next level. I think she will too, but I’m not 100% sure. And that makes me sad, because she really wants to stay with them. So I have my fingers crossed… But if they are making her repeat this year I’m switching to another school with her. A school where she can develop on her own terms. And in Holland… Those schools aren’t cheap. But I think they are leaving us little choice.

By the way, homeschooling isn’t legal in Holland. And if it was we would definitely go for an “unschooling” approach. Combined with activities to interact with friends and finding the necessary professional support for the ability’s she is ready and willing to learn at her own request whenever needed.

But, that being said… she LOVES this school so much! And she definitely doesn’t want to switch schools.
So I hope they will be able to be flexible and adapt to her needs.

I will not let the right educational system her damage her upcoming years as I know the pressure to excel on the kids will be build up. There will be tests, she will be pushed for those levels to be reached. And I don’t like it one bit.
Keeping my eye on this.

In the meantime, she is one dreaming, happy, playful, curious, beautiful little girl with a healthy positive self-image.
And I will make sure that stay’s that way!

Anny other parents struggling with the same out there!?

 

 

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