Middle child

Middle child

Your too small to do all the things your big sister can.
Too big to do all the things your little sister gets away with.

You are not the biggest sister
You are not the smallest sister
Somewhere in between…

But in your eyes, you are a BIG sister AND a SMALL sister all at once.
In fact. You have everything!

It’s not always easy being the middle child. But then again. You are the center of our attention a lot of the time. Your glass isn’t half full… it’s overflowing! They often say that the middle kid easily is forgotten. Well… let’s just say that that will never happen to our Haley. Attention, she will demand it. And you deserve all the attention you need my love.

Strongwilled, adventures, curious, assertive, smart, funny, direct, strong, honest, observative, and so so so sweet. It looks like her other two sisters came from the same planet, cut from the same wood, same temper, same base template, but this girl came from a whole universe of her own.

There is a dull moment with this little dragon girl. Never stops moving, climbing, reaching for the most dangerous (and therefore most interesting) objects, piling up chairs on tables on books to get higher, never scared, and fast… oh she’s so incredibly fast. I blink my eyes and she’s around some corner running, laughing, looking over her shoulder to see if she is being followed. The determination in everything she does. I believe she will be able to achieve anything she puts her mind to. This smart, sweet, strong, passionate, fierce, athletic, energetic, crazy, explosive, funny, radiant sweet and beautiful little girl. She will be noticed.

That little game we play, where we both claim to love the other more!
But my little baby girl, I LOVE you more than you could ever comprehend! Maybe when you get babies of your own someday you’ll realize.
So, I win… I love you MORE!

Love,
Jolanda, Michiel
Miley, Haley & Quinn

Consciousness, Like mother like daughter +Twinning Lookbook

“To plant a garden is to believe in tomorrow.”

~Audrey Hepburn

To have children is for me believing in tomorrow. Planting a garden with them and teaching them to treasure this planet is an essential part of the way we are raising our babies. We must protect what is left of nature and try and stabilize the unbalance we are creating as human beings.

Making as many conscious choices as you can possibly make in your unique situation.
From using las plastic and package materials to recycle your waste.
From buying your clothes at your local thrift shop to buying conscious fashion brands. From growing your own food to supporting local farmers.

Lead by example. Like mother like daughter…

Minimalizing our carbon footprint and sometimes spreading a handful of wildflower seeds on to a patch of dirt. To see it turn in to the most beautiful flower field in a few weeks time. The bees will thank you for it by keeping our fragile ecosystem stable. And our children will have a better chance of having a carefree future on this beautiful planet.

How do you contribute to the awareness of conscious decisions in your children? Maybe you have inspiring ideas I would love to hear!
Tell me in the comments on instagram!

Love,
Jolanda, Michiel
Miley, Haley & Quinn

    We love Bobo choses

    Bobo choses,  a Spanish brand has the most gorgeous collections of fair susnainable fashion.

    We are in love with their spring-summer collection “to plant a garden” and we feel like the spirit and attitude of the collection is capturing what we and a lot of parents around us are feeling. Let’s care for our kids, lets care for this planet. And let’s look awesome while doing it!

    Bob choses send us our matching mother-daughter jumpsuits and clogs! So much love for these fun and happy outfits!

    Lookbook TWINNING with Miley

    I went Twinzies with my big girl Miley!
    Spring is here so a perfect outfit to get out into the garden and enjoy the first rays of sunshine!

    We want to thank Bobo choses and Polette eyewear for our Mother and daughter twinning outfits! We are loving it!

      We love Polette

      Polette send me the same pair of glasses that we already had bought for my daughter. This way we can twin!

      Polette has beautiful frames and doesn’t pre-produce the frames. Every time someone orders a frame and lenses it is completely produced on demand. This way there is no wasteful overproduction of their collection.

      The frames and lenses are manufactured in their own factory in China by trained optical professionals.

      Their friendly priced prescription glasses are making quality glasses available for everyone. And in a household with 3 glasses-wairing individuals (from-wich 2 kids) we are really happy that with their frames we can afford it to get everyone the high-quality prescription-eyeglasses we need, without having to completely empty all our piggy-banks.

      SHOP the LOOK

      SHOP the LOOK

      Chopping wood is Therapeutic

      let them express their inner Rugged bearded man!

       

      Chopping wood, Therapeutic for him. That’s what I would call it…

      During the lunch break, or after dinner, Michiel loves to get outside and shop some wood. Rain or shine, Spring, Summer, Fall or Winter! He is out there chopping his logs in to big chunks of lumber for the fire.

      And to be honest, there can never be to much lumber.
      During the spring, summer, and fall we make nice campfires in our backyard.
      And we are looking for a nice stove to keep us warm and cozy during winter months!

       

      “It’s in our DNA as humans. There is a fascination with creating fire with most men.”

       I guess it’s a primal thing, making lumber to keep fires going has been a ritual for thousands of years.  It’s in our DNA as humans. There is a fascination with creating fire with most men. At least, that’s what I’m seeing.

      Look at the neighborhood barbecue… Where are the men? Where the fire is! Haha, a little bunch of pyromaniacs with their beer in hand poking the fire.

      So I say… let them chop wood. It’s good for the soul. Letting them follow that primal instinct, letting out all their negative energy and frustration on the logs.
      Letting them be wild instinct-driven bushcraft motherfuckers! They are providing wood. Providing warmth. Providing protection from the cold. Providing the fire which we all can gather around.  Hear him roar! My strong man. Gosh, o’ my! Look at him being all provide-dy and stuff! Suddenly I forget I’m an independent woman who can chop her own wood just fine. I bet he would catch me whenever I would faint. Oh wait, he actually did once when I was pregnant! See!? My strong wood chopping for-family-providing-and-protecting man!

       

      “a genius guide that can lead any aspiring Burschcraft motherfucker in the right direction!”

       

      So, whenever he gets grumpy… tell him to go out and chop some wood. Youll see. He’ll come back a whole other man. 😉 Thank you Weltevree for gearing us up with this fresh and sharp new blade for Michiel to get his chopping on! And we are so happy with this Dutch guide that publishing agency SNOR sent to us, it’s a genius guide that can lead any aspiring Burschcraft motherfucker in the right direction! (brilliant fathers day tip for all the dutchies)

      Ladies! Do you send your men out to do some chopping and de-stress!?
      Or is it just me?

      Blog by: Jolanda Marti
      Photography: Jolanda Marti & Michiel Fook

      “man of the house” MUST HAVES

      In this insta-proof flatlay, we laid everything out for you. All the must-haves to make him feel like the ultimate survival backyard bushcraft badass.

      from left to right – top to bottom:

      Follow Michiel on Instagram!

      Our story from his point of view! More guy stuff and how to be a badass dad to 3 badass girls!

      Run wild my child

      Run wild my child

      We love to prepare a picknick basket and go out in the woods. Driving to the woods we are hearing all the “where are we going”-’s and “are we there yet”-’s and ” I don’t want to go to the wood”-’s of the world. Yes, our kids are like all the other kids in the world. But once we are there all of that is forgotten and off they go. Climbing trees collecting treasures and building castles.

      We hike for a bit. Find a nice place to lay down a plaid and our stuff as a “home-base”. Chilling and eating and playing around in the shade of the trees. We spot dears, hear the songs the birds are singing to us, the wind blowing through the trees and our wildling cubs howling to the beat of the forest.

      Little feet are making a wonderful crunchy sound as they touch the layered floor of the forest. Every step feels different, little sticks, rocks, bones, grass, and mosses are all hiding under a think mixed layer of old crispy and fresh soft fallen leaves. Making every step an exciting surprise. Walking on barefoot shoes is making our exploration feel natural to the touch and safe against rough undergrounds and sharp objects at the same time.

      All things we normally tend to worry about seeming small and insignificant. No to-do lists, bills to pay, work to do, places to be. Because this is all that matters, this is all we need. Each other and nature. This feels like freedom. Pure happiness.

      We are rich when we leave to go home. Our bounty: A scraped knee, two feathers, seven stones, four leaves, improved tree climbing skills, twelve-spotted dears, hundred stories, and five fully charged inspiration batteries.

      On our way back home our little Quinn falls asleep in the car, Haley is quietly looking out the window and Miley asking us ” this was fun! When can we go back!?”

      As soon as possible my little wildling.

      Love,
      Jolanda, Michiel
      Miley, Haley & Quinn

        We love Wildling shoes

         

         Wildling shoes geared our whole family up with their barefoot shoes and we are loving it! 

        The wonderful feeling of running and climbing barefoot through the forest while being safe against rough undergrounds and sharp objects is amazing! 

        Walking around barefoot or with barefoot schoe, wair doesn’t just feel great. It’s actually really healthy too! The reason why is very well explained here:
        1- In Duch by Linde Logtenberg on her Instagram here!
        2- or in this video by Teck Insider

        We want to thank our partner Wildling shoes  for supporting us and making it possible for us to keep producing our video’s, vlogs and blogs. It’s because of these kind partnerships we get to do what we love most:
        Being creative and sharing our stories and Images!

        Our Mindful Babycare routine +WIN a Babycare Sheepskin

        Our Mindful Babycare routine +WIN a Babycare Sheepskin.

        Clean, feed, sleep repeat
        Clean, feed, sleep repeat
        Clean, feed, sleep repeat

        Day in, day out you get in this automated rhythm of taking care of your babe. And it’s basically the same every single time. Being a parent of a baby is hard. Especially that first year using. So going on survival mode and the whole taking care routine on autopilot
        But sometimes the “autopilot mode” becomes the “normal”. A habit of just getting the job done and get it over with.

        And then your baby starts acting out around those care rituals… Twisting and turning, trying to help you change the diaper grabbing all the dirty bits getting poop everywhere. Grabbing your face with their hands or kicking you with their feet for attention or maybe even try and turn to get away from you.

        But put yourself in their place. Someone grabbing you and starts clothing you, changing and washing you while completely ignoring you as a person. No eye contact. Nothing. They are just getting it over with. Sorry, no one home. Not mom or dad. Autopilot has taken over.

        Once in a while, I noticed it happened to us again. We’ve been overwhelmed and exhausted for a period, so we’ve slipped into this survival mode. And never came out. Usually, it hit me when my baby wasn’t working with me but making it impossible to get the job done. Acting out in all sorts of ways. Literally, shake me up and making me snap out of it.

        Instead of shouting to my baby “keep still” or “stop that NOW” I would realize what was happening.
        I am making her do this! It’s on me!
        So the solution was always simple, and always the same:

        1-make eye contact.
        2-talk to them and include them in what you are doing.
        3-sing to them.
        4-tickle them.
        5-cuddle them.
        6-lots of kisses and attention.
        7-take your time

        And we’ve all been there.
        Multiple times. This survival/autopilot mode is actually pretty handy for night changes or moments when you have trouble coping because your baby has been sick and keeping you awake or you are not feeling well or whatever. But after the crisis moments.. Get back in the moment and enjoy the precious one on one time with your little one.

        MAKE EYE CONTACT, TALK TO YOUR BABY. TAKE YOUR TIME.

        The Vachtenspecialist.nl send us a Babycare sheepskin for our little Quinn to chill on while we give her all the attention in the world.

        So tell me… Do you catch yourself sometimes being an apathetic exhausted on-auto-mode operating parent sometimes?
        How do you notice you’re out of it and how do you get yourself back in the moment?

         

        Blog by: Jolanda Marti
        Photography: Jolanda Marti & Michiel Fook

        WIN a babycare sheepskin For mothersday!

        Research has shown that babies who sleep on a sheepskin are less likely to have asthma.

        In addition, sheepskins are not only for the cold winter months, they also have a cooling effect in the summer. Moisture is absorbed by the fur and air between the hairs acts as a natural air conditioner. In winter you stay pleasantly warm and in the summer nice and cool.

        Another advantage of these coats is that they can be washed out. And the size is ideal for the crib or baby pen!

        If you want to have the chance to win a Babycare sheepskin all you have to do is:

        • Follow: @wildandboho on Instagram
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        • Tag someone who would love to have one two in this in the comments of this Instagram post:

        The winner will be revealed the 5th of Mei in my Instagram stories 

         

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