Mindful parenting

Mindful parenting
How to be in the moment as a parent when your mind still is racing, thinking about everything that has been keeping you busy. Being a Mindful parent isn’t easy! So Learn from your kids! They are experts in experiencing and enjoying the present… They know best! Stop overthinking everything and start living in the “NOW”

Last September we went on an unexpected adventure somewhere in the dunes near Zandvoort in Holland. The kids were laughing and running and playing from the moment we stepped out of the van… But for me, it really took me a while to let go of my constant train of thought, let go of my worries, plans, and huge todo list. Until I realized what I was doing to myself and them. I wasn’t really there with them. I was missing out on all the fun while I was too buzzy being an adult!

So in that moment, I thought:  That’s it! I’m done adulting!
And guess what!? I had the best day ever!

Having trouble living in the moment as a parent!? Jump in there with your kids and just allow yourself to fully embrace the fun!
Wo’s with me!?

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MOMyself

It feels like there was the “me” before I had kids and the “me” after. Not only that but after each and every birth of one of my baby girls I totally felt had to find myself all over again.

Having a baby, giving life to a beautiful tiny helpless human and bringing it into this world, and then caring for it 24/7 giving it everything you’ve got is so intense. What that does to your body, you’re mind, to your whole being. It’s all most indescribable. It puts everything upside down and inside out. For a while there the “me” became a “we”. The sense of “self” was scrambled. And all doh after giving birth I turned in to a “me” again… but it doesn’t feel like that at all. That connection to my baby is still there and feels as strong as ever, especially the first 6 months. I am the MOM to someone very special now! And being a mommy is making it impossible for me to remember who I ever was before this little being of mine sprung into life inside my belly. Which by the way, obviously must have rewired this brain of mine in some way. I don’t recognize myself anymore.

And then slowly but surely the dust settles after 7 months or so and I’m starting to get to know myself again. Finally, I can see the new shape of “Myself” again through the new all costuming role of MOM.

And I’m still there! It’s still ME! With the same passions, likes and dislikes, fears, talents, hopes and dreams and everything! But just with a few little extras.

Extra love, extra cuddles, extra responsibility, extra milk, extra patience, priorities and a whole new set of extra hopes and dreams. You’re a MOM but still your Self! And right now I feel like MOMyself!

Recognizing who I am aside from the mom role gives me the strength and clarity to see past the things I want as a mom and gives me the space to feel like an individual And decide what I want to do besides being a mother. Because being a MOM doesn’t mean I can’t have a successful business, be independent, have hobbies, be creative, travel, do sports, feel sexy, powerful, smart, feel like I can do anything I want. Setting an example for my girls! Because I CAN do all that and still be there for my babies almost full time… Even on a working day (3 to 4 days a week) I am with them 18 hours a day! The power of co-sleeping, having a family business, mom/dad equally shared tasks, and working from the home! I want to have it all!

Yes, I am proud to be a mother of 3!
But I am much more than that.

Here is a photo series I did with photographer Wouter Keuris.
So happy I did this shoot with him! We talked a lot about Photography, the wedding-buzz and we had a great time during the shoot! It made me feel like an autonomous person without a baby or kid attached to me for a few hours. I felt like a whole person again, empowered! Not the same as before… but that’s ok. I’ve grown, I’ve learned, I’m getting to know my new MOMyself for the third time. I’m embracing the new me! Never felt so at peace with myself.

Are you a mom? How did you experience that?  Did having of having baby’s changed you in some way?

Photography: Wouter Keuris
Retouche: Jolanda Marti

Recipe for fun!

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Ever wonder why kids go mad as soon as they come anywhere near sand!? Just dive in there with them and you’ll find out!
Play as if you were 5 years old. Just dive in there with them! Run, jump, dance, kick it, run it through your fingers and yo crazy until you’re totally out of breath. Then fall down laughing and feel the endorphins take over. That’s is why.

That’s exactly what we did on an evening this summer when there was a huge fire in this big waste/plastic-recycling factory in Amsterdam and we had to flee because the black toxic smoke was covering our village. We jumped in our van and just drove away from the smoke-polluted zone. We had no idea where to go so we just headed towards the Dutch coast until we landed on a beautiful dunes area where we could relax and wait until the fire was under control. And we had a blast! We ended up sleeping at my parent’s house because it took a bit longer to put out that big fire over there, but we had a wonderful weekend anyway!

When we came back home the black smoke was gone and it already had rained so that purified the air a bit. We ventilated and cleaned our house thoroughly and no harm was done to our little house and garden. But still so sad to think how much pollution went up in the air during that fire. I hope no one was harmed or breathed too much of that toxic air that weekend.

Anyway, we took a bad situation and turned it around into a beautiful sunny sand-filled day!
The conclusion of this weekend: The best recipe for fun anytime anywhere: Just add some sand!

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Ooit afgevraagd waarom kinderen los gaan zodra ze ergens in de buurt van zand komen!? Duik er zelf in met je kinderen en dan snap je waarom! Ren, spring, dans, schop erin, laat het door je vingers glijden en ga helemaal los totdat je compleet buiten adem bent. Val dan lachend neer en voel hoe de endorfines het overnemen. Dit is waarom.

Dat is precies wat we deze zomer deden toen er een enorme brand was in een grote afval / plastic-recyclingfabriek in Amsterdam. We moesten vluchten omdat de zwarte giftige rook ons ​​dorp bedekte. We sprongen in ons busje en reden. We reden gewoon weg van de rookverontreinigde zone, geen idee waar we heen moesten maar het enige wat we wisten is, overal liever dan hier. Dus reden gewoon richting de Nederlandse kust totdat we op een prachtig duingebied landden waar we konden ontspannen en wachten tot het vuur onder controle was. En we hebben een fantastische dag gehad! We sliepen uiteidelijk bij het huis van mijn ouders omdat het wat langer duurde om dat grote vuur daar meester te krijgen. Hoe dan ook hadden toch een geweldig weekend!

Toen we thuiskwamen was de zwarte rook verdwenen en had het al geregend, zodat de lucht een beetje werd gezuiverd. We ventileerden en reinigden ons huis grondig en er was geen schade aangericht aan ons kleine huis en tuin. Toch best triest om te bedenken hoeveel gif en vervuiling de lucht in is gegaan tijdens die brand. Ik hoop dat niemand dat weekend teveel schade of teveel van die giftige lucht heeft ingeademd.

Hoe dan ook, we namen een slechte situatie en veranderden het in een prachtige zonnige dag vol zand en liefde!
De conclusie van dit weekend: Het beste recept voor plezier altijd en overal: Voeg gewoon wat zand toe!

Photography: Michiel Fook & Jolanda Marti

Expecting Wild

So lets be honest… from the 38th week in pregnancy I’m not the most charming person around. I only fit my biggest maternity joggers and I can walk (or actually wobble) around for a max of 10 minutes before crashing. And i skip doing my hair or make-up all together. So, i’m not even trying any more. I accept the fact that i’m going to be a big fat clumsy whale until giving birth. And after that I will be a big jiggly and wobbly pudding mommy… but. The happiest and luckiest jiggly mom there can be!

We will be the proud parents of three beautiful little girls! And then it hit me… this will probably be the last time ever being pregnant. Never again will my belly be this big. Never again i will feel new life growing inside me! Never again i will get to wonder how she will look, how her character will be, how her voice will sound.

Especially the last couple of weeks of pregnancy are just too surreal… a full-term baby, ready to be born is moving around in there. But when? The waiting, expecting, wondering. It’s all such a precious experience.

So we decided to celebrate this moment and capture it’s beauty, power and romance in this photoshoot. Getting myself off the couch, out of my comfy stretchy pants and wide sweater… and in to the prettiest outfits I could still fit into. (Not much as you can see) Making an effort to do my hair and even put on a little bit of make-up!

And yes, i know… my belly is really huge. And I decided to be extremely proud of it! As i’m also going to be of my body after giving birth… so thankful for my 3 baby girls it has given me. I will be giving myself time and respect to heal while my body nourishes my two youngest daughters. The woman’s body is so strong and giving. Never thought I could do all of this… I’m in awe of all that is happening at this moment.  I’m just so thankful.

Today is the 29th… three days past my due date. But i’m not holding my breath. She is quite comfy in there. Im guessing she will present herself around 41 weeks. Just as her sisters did! In the meantime we are being patient and happy what every day brings us while we wait on the new little Wild child.

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So here the result of the 39 weeks and 5 days pregnancy shoot!

Enjoy!

Photography: Michiel Fook

Carry in style -Carry you home

The baby-carrying way of life.
Wherever we go we take our baby with us! No problem, she just hops on our back and she gets te see the world from her private VIP seat.
Plus we get all those extra bonus cuddles from her!

It’s really a livestyle thing. Not having to stay at home for all those naps, she prefers to sleep close to us. We can entertain her, so much to see from up there. And she gets to view and explore the world from a safe place. So where ever we are she is getting everything she needs.

This feeling of keeping your child close to you and carry them is a hard thing to describe with words.
PinkNova desided to produce a song about it. A thing that has never been done before as far as i know!
The dutch singer-song writer Bart Voncken wrote the song for them called “I will carry you home”
The song is just so sweet and sincere, it communicates exactly that feeling of keeping your child close you ,and caring for them more than anything in this whole wide world! Can’t help but getting all emotional every time i hear it!

With our photograpy and videography we always try to show how we experience this world and illustrate our feeling of being close and connected to each other as a family. Ilse and Judith from PinkNova came to us width the question if we would like to use the song in our newest video.
And offcourse we would like that! Actually, it’s a huge honor!

We took a little break in putting our video’s online. The shots of our adventures from the last view months were saved to make one compilation video for the song! Nothing fancy, just the four of us, living our lives, going on roadtrips, cuddling on the couch, loving eachother, and carrying our babygirl with us. Honest, sincere, real images. Beautiful but not prefect, just as real life.

Scroll down to see a view pictures we took while shooting the video.

In the next couple of weeks we will publish the complete video’s where this compilation video is made out off!
Lots of unseen footage and complete photo series and stories behind every scene to come!
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Hope you enjoy and relate to the song and the video, we had lots of fun making it!

– This blogpost is made in collaboration with  PinkNova  –

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Photo & Videography: Jolanda Marti & Michiel Fook  –  Wild & Boho 
Music: Bart Voncke
Baby Wraps:  Pinknova
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