Middle child

Middle child

Your too small to do all the things your big sister can.
Too big to do all the things your little sister gets away with.

You are not the biggest sister
You are not the smallest sister
Somewhere in between…

But in your eyes, you are a BIG sister AND a SMALL sister all at once.
In fact. You have everything!

It’s not always easy being the middle child. But then again. You are the center of our attention a lot of the time. Your glass isn’t half full… it’s overflowing! They often say that the middle kid easily is forgotten. Well… let’s just say that that will never happen to our Haley. Attention, she will demand it. And you deserve all the attention you need my love.

Strongwilled, adventures, curious, assertive, smart, funny, direct, strong, honest, observative, and so so so sweet. It looks like her other two sisters came from the same planet, cut from the same wood, same temper, same base template, but this girl came from a whole universe of her own.

There is a dull moment with this little dragon girl. Never stops moving, climbing, reaching for the most dangerous (and therefore most interesting) objects, piling up chairs on tables on books to get higher, never scared, and fast… oh she’s so incredibly fast. I blink my eyes and she’s around some corner running, laughing, looking over her shoulder to see if she is being followed. The determination in everything she does. I believe she will be able to achieve anything she puts her mind to. This smart, sweet, strong, passionate, fierce, athletic, energetic, crazy, explosive, funny, radiant sweet and beautiful little girl. She will be noticed.

That little game we play, where we both claim to love the other more!
But my little baby girl, I LOVE you more than you could ever comprehend! Maybe when you get babies of your own someday you’ll realize.
So, I win… I love you MORE!

Love,
Jolanda, Michiel
Miley, Haley & Quinn

Consciousness, Like mother like daughter +Twinning Lookbook

“To plant a garden is to believe in tomorrow.”

~Audrey Hepburn

To have children is for me believing in tomorrow. Planting a garden with them and teaching them to treasure this planet is an essential part of the way we are raising our babies. We must protect what is left of nature and try and stabilize the unbalance we are creating as human beings.

Making as many conscious choices as you can possibly make in your unique situation.
From using las plastic and package materials to recycle your waste.
From buying your clothes at your local thrift shop to buying conscious fashion brands. From growing your own food to supporting local farmers.

Lead by example. Like mother like daughter…

Minimalizing our carbon footprint and sometimes spreading a handful of wildflower seeds on to a patch of dirt. To see it turn in to the most beautiful flower field in a few weeks time. The bees will thank you for it by keeping our fragile ecosystem stable. And our children will have a better chance of having a carefree future on this beautiful planet.

How do you contribute to the awareness of conscious decisions in your children? Maybe you have inspiring ideas I would love to hear!
Tell me in the comments on instagram!

Love,
Jolanda, Michiel
Miley, Haley & Quinn

    We love Bobo choses

    Bobo choses,  a Spanish brand has the most gorgeous collections of fair susnainable fashion.

    We are in love with their spring-summer collection “to plant a garden” and we feel like the spirit and attitude of the collection is capturing what we and a lot of parents around us are feeling. Let’s care for our kids, lets care for this planet. And let’s look awesome while doing it!

    Bob choses send us our matching mother-daughter jumpsuits and clogs! So much love for these fun and happy outfits!

    Lookbook TWINNING with Miley

    I went Twinzies with my big girl Miley!
    Spring is here so a perfect outfit to get out into the garden and enjoy the first rays of sunshine!

    We want to thank Bobo choses and Polette eyewear for our Mother and daughter twinning outfits! We are loving it!

      We love Polette

      Polette send me the same pair of glasses that we already had bought for my daughter. This way we can twin!

      Polette has beautiful frames and doesn’t pre-produce the frames. Every time someone orders a frame and lenses it is completely produced on demand. This way there is no wasteful overproduction of their collection.

      The frames and lenses are manufactured in their own factory in China by trained optical professionals.

      Their friendly priced prescription glasses are making quality glasses available for everyone. And in a household with 3 glasses-wairing individuals (from-wich 2 kids) we are really happy that with their frames we can afford it to get everyone the high-quality prescription-eyeglasses we need, without having to completely empty all our piggy-banks.

      SHOP the LOOK

      SHOP the LOOK

      Happy Midsummer!

      Woohoo, summer is here and we are feeling energized and inspired.

      This weekend was the summer solstice and we are feeling it in our bones! Summer is coming and we can’t wait to hit the road!
      All the Preparations for our big summer trip are totally happening right now!

      I took all the summer clothing from the back of the closet to the front! Re-discovering all my summer favorites.
      The only thing that was lacking was a fresh pair of summer loving specs. This will be the first summer for me with glasses.
      So Polette geared me up with some groovy round frames that makes me feel like I’m back in the ’60s. No wonder this model is called “rewind”.
      Loving it!!!

      Suddenly the kids are feeling “done” with the school. Aldou they LOVE to go to school, they want to stay at home now, “no more school mom!” I know babe… just a couple of weeks and we are free to go!

      We are also still editing a few weddings from our wedding photography, but other than that we are buzzily prepping the van, making a checklist for all the things we want to bring with us, but more important deciding what things NOT to bring with us. Our tiny little van hasn’t much space, so we are taking the BARE minimum with us!

      Also thinking of a way to make the journey and the whole “where are we” story clear for our kids on the way… So I started designing a custom “kids activity book/ travel diary” for them on this trip. With games, logs, and maps to get an understanding of where we are in the world and what to expect along the line of our journey.

      So! Enjoy the weather, and remember to take the time to stop… feel…hear….see…breathe…stretch…and smell the roses!

      Love,
      Jolanda

      SHOP the LOOK

      Throwback to my old model-portfolio!

      Wayyyy back to the time when…

       

      …I was studying and I did some modeling!

      I studied Multi-Media Design and Audio Visual Design in Amsterdam, as well as the introduction year of the Art Academy (Rietveld Academie) to become a filmmaker. And on the side, I did some modeling.

      I selected a couple of the photo’s from my old portfolio to share with you guys!
      This is the 10 to 17 -year younger me.

      If you already have a low self-image, don’t start with modeling.

      It was exciting, and a lot of the time a harsh world. But it definitely made me more confident and let me have a more positive self-image. Because in modeling, there are lots of people judging you purely on your appearance. And, and  Maybe it sounds crazy, but to me when you hear someone say to you, “ah… you would be the perfect model if you would be taller and have a nose job” WTF It sounds so extremely over-the-top harsh and completely ridiculous, that it made me care less about what others think!

      I had my two feet on the ground. I just felt that almost everyone in the business was just putting up an act of some-kind, fitting in, and most of the time extremely insecure and frustrated themselves. I could see through the charade, so it didn’t affect me at all.

      Being a model means having to deal with lots of rejections, before getting a YES on a job.
      And even though I could handle the people the comments and the attitudes, but the rejections were not much fun at all. But that made the chase only that much more fun, and a WIN that much sweeter!

      Getting Inspired
      Not everyone is horrible! All dough may look and sound that way, not everyone is horribly unstable and mean… Some of my best friends today are people I met in the field! There are lots of agencies, model colleagues, stylists, makeup and hair stylists, and other people on the set that are just amazingly talented, creative, nice and inspiring to be working with!

      Modeling changed my life

      Now looking back, this modeling totally formed me and led me to the place I am today.
      At the end of the day, I did invest way more time and energy on castings, test shoots and portfolio viewings than I made money to compensate me for it. But I think I got something way more value out of it. The experiences along the road of my modeling career made me the person I am today.

      These are the main  life lessons are the things I’ve learned along the way:

      People knowledge. Recognizing someone who is insecure and therefore acting a bit tough, braggy and mean. And not feel threatened by it. It’s ok. We all have struggles I guess.
      -SOMEONE will Always find you ugly! But someone will always find you beautiful! (Aside from the obvious fact that true beauty comes from within and all that… but we are talking modeling biz here, so we go no deeper than the outer layer here.)
      -Not giving up. Yes, you grow a strong backbone by so much rejection, but success is only a matter of time!
      Self-confidence, it has to come from within yourself, not by validation of others.
      Learning on set, And last but not least: I think that having experience in standing in front of the camera definitely helped me in becoming a better photographer and filmmaker. The compositions, and base camera and lightning techniques of shooting images and production basics in the field.

      Today

      Sometimes once in a while, there are still little commercial gigs I do. Mostly I get typecast as “the mom” to do a shoot with one of my babies. But mostly we shoot our own stuff for our blog and Instagram for brands. So that’s a kind of commercial “lifestyle” modeling too I guess.

       

      Did you know that:

      – I am only 5.2 feet tall! (huge disadvantage for a model, I only did beauty, lifestyle, and commercial.

      – Being highly emphatic made it easier to feel that all the superficial bitchyness was just an “attitude” and a charade, some sort of coping mechanism. Underneath it all they all where good people struggling with lots of insecurities. 

      – As a model, you get to work and meet and be inspired by lots and lots of cool creative and very nice people too!!! 

      – I look different through a lens… I may look better on camera than in real life I guess hahaha Once a photographer didn’t reckonize me, but looking through the lens of his camera he said: “aaaah YES now I see you!”  XD

      – I started modeling when I was 15 years old, I got a lot less active at the age of 21 as I started my professional career as a Motion graphic designer and presenter for a dutch tv show (that’s a whole other story).

      I treasure the pictures from all the shoots I did. So lovely to look back on!

      – I never ever starved myself, Ate enough and didn’t over-exhausted myself with working out.

      I never spend money on photoshoots or paying an agency! Especially the last one is a big NO they should invest in you if they believe in you.

      -I did invest a LOT of time in my portfolio, Collaborating with lots of photographers, stylist, and makeup artists!

      – I know nothing of how things in the modeling business are now in 2019.  This is my experience of 15 years ago.

      -Most of these photos are in Tiny little resolution! So sad I don’t have the high-res files anymore! I think I’m going to contact the photographers, maybe I can still get them from their archives! (I really hope so!)

      I never earned LOTS of money with it! I lived with my parents and went to school! This was just a fun side job. 

       

      I guess I combined my skills from my education and my experience in modeling. So there you go! My experience in standing in Front of the camera started right here and led me right to where I am today.

      Scroll all the way down to see more photo’s from my old portfolio!

       

      Thanks for reading along and if you have any questions, ask me on my Instagram, because I live there hahaha:  https://www.instagram.com/wildandboho/ 

      Love,
      Jolanda Marti

      Blogpost written by: Jolanda Marti

       


      Photography in my portfolio selection on this page  is by:

      -Nicole patricia malina
      -Hanneke van Leeuwen
      -Michel zoeter
      -Rob l. roos
      -Martin wieldraaijer

      -Wouter keuris
      -Jacomijn Lyppens
      -Jan Stijnman
      -Richard bakker
      -Robert Hart

      The copyright of these photos is from the photographer who created the photo.

      Don’t copy, use or publish any of these photos without their explicit permission! Want to know more info about a photo, just ask me, I will direct you to the right photographer.

      I’m so so grateful for these amazing artist I got to work with!

      If I’m forgetting a name (and I am, but I can’t find the names anywhere anymore aaarggg it’s killing me!)
      or if anny info is wrong, please please please let me know!!! I Will ad it to the list! I don’t remember everything from 15 years ago! I wish I did do…  Let me know by sending me an email or a dm in my insta!

      Our Mindful Babycare routine +WIN a Babycare Sheepskin

      Our Mindful Babycare routine +WIN a Babycare Sheepskin.

      Clean, feed, sleep repeat
      Clean, feed, sleep repeat
      Clean, feed, sleep repeat

      Day in, day out you get in this automated rhythm of taking care of your babe. And it’s basically the same every single time. Being a parent of a baby is hard. Especially that first year using. So going on survival mode and the whole taking care routine on autopilot
      But sometimes the “autopilot mode” becomes the “normal”. A habit of just getting the job done and get it over with.

      And then your baby starts acting out around those care rituals… Twisting and turning, trying to help you change the diaper grabbing all the dirty bits getting poop everywhere. Grabbing your face with their hands or kicking you with their feet for attention or maybe even try and turn to get away from you.

      But put yourself in their place. Someone grabbing you and starts clothing you, changing and washing you while completely ignoring you as a person. No eye contact. Nothing. They are just getting it over with. Sorry, no one home. Not mom or dad. Autopilot has taken over.

      Once in a while, I noticed it happened to us again. We’ve been overwhelmed and exhausted for a period, so we’ve slipped into this survival mode. And never came out. Usually, it hit me when my baby wasn’t working with me but making it impossible to get the job done. Acting out in all sorts of ways. Literally, shake me up and making me snap out of it.

      Instead of shouting to my baby “keep still” or “stop that NOW” I would realize what was happening.
      I am making her do this! It’s on me!
      So the solution was always simple, and always the same:

      1-make eye contact.
      2-talk to them and include them in what you are doing.
      3-sing to them.
      4-tickle them.
      5-cuddle them.
      6-lots of kisses and attention.
      7-take your time

      And we’ve all been there.
      Multiple times. This survival/autopilot mode is actually pretty handy for night changes or moments when you have trouble coping because your baby has been sick and keeping you awake or you are not feeling well or whatever. But after the crisis moments.. Get back in the moment and enjoy the precious one on one time with your little one.

      MAKE EYE CONTACT, TALK TO YOUR BABY. TAKE YOUR TIME.

      The Vachtenspecialist.nl send us a Babycare sheepskin for our little Quinn to chill on while we give her all the attention in the world.

      So tell me… Do you catch yourself sometimes being an apathetic exhausted on-auto-mode operating parent sometimes?
      How do you notice you’re out of it and how do you get yourself back in the moment?

       

      Blog by: Jolanda Marti
      Photography: Jolanda Marti & Michiel Fook

      WIN a babycare sheepskin For mothersday!

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