Middle child

Middle child

Your too small to do all the things your big sister can.
Too big to do all the things your little sister gets away with.

You are not the biggest sister
You are not the smallest sister
Somewhere in between…

But in your eyes, you are a BIG sister AND a SMALL sister all at once.
In fact. You have everything!

It’s not always easy being the middle child. But then again. You are the center of our attention a lot of the time. Your glass isn’t half full… it’s overflowing! They often say that the middle kid easily is forgotten. Well… let’s just say that that will never happen to our Haley. Attention, she will demand it. And you deserve all the attention you need my love.

Strongwilled, adventures, curious, assertive, smart, funny, direct, strong, honest, observative, and so so so sweet. It looks like her other two sisters came from the same planet, cut from the same wood, same temper, same base template, but this girl came from a whole universe of her own.

There is a dull moment with this little dragon girl. Never stops moving, climbing, reaching for the most dangerous (and therefore most interesting) objects, piling up chairs on tables on books to get higher, never scared, and fast… oh she’s so incredibly fast. I blink my eyes and she’s around some corner running, laughing, looking over her shoulder to see if she is being followed. The determination in everything she does. I believe she will be able to achieve anything she puts her mind to. This smart, sweet, strong, passionate, fierce, athletic, energetic, crazy, explosive, funny, radiant sweet and beautiful little girl. She will be noticed.

That little game we play, where we both claim to love the other more!
But my little baby girl, I LOVE you more than you could ever comprehend! Maybe when you get babies of your own someday you’ll realize.
So, I win… I love you MORE!

Love,
Jolanda, Michiel
Miley, Haley & Quinn

Consciousness, Like mother like daughter +Twinning Lookbook

“To plant a garden is to believe in tomorrow.”

~Audrey Hepburn

To have children is for me believing in tomorrow. Planting a garden with them and teaching them to treasure this planet is an essential part of the way we are raising our babies. We must protect what is left of nature and try and stabilize the unbalance we are creating as human beings.

Making as many conscious choices as you can possibly make in your unique situation.
From using las plastic and package materials to recycle your waste.
From buying your clothes at your local thrift shop to buying conscious fashion brands. From growing your own food to supporting local farmers.

Lead by example. Like mother like daughter…

Minimalizing our carbon footprint and sometimes spreading a handful of wildflower seeds on to a patch of dirt. To see it turn in to the most beautiful flower field in a few weeks time. The bees will thank you for it by keeping our fragile ecosystem stable. And our children will have a better chance of having a carefree future on this beautiful planet.

How do you contribute to the awareness of conscious decisions in your children? Maybe you have inspiring ideas I would love to hear!
Tell me in the comments on instagram!

Love,
Jolanda, Michiel
Miley, Haley & Quinn

    We love Bobo choses

    Bobo choses,  a Spanish brand has the most gorgeous collections of fair susnainable fashion.

    We are in love with their spring-summer collection “to plant a garden” and we feel like the spirit and attitude of the collection is capturing what we and a lot of parents around us are feeling. Let’s care for our kids, lets care for this planet. And let’s look awesome while doing it!

    Bob choses send us our matching mother-daughter jumpsuits and clogs! So much love for these fun and happy outfits!

    Lookbook TWINNING with Miley

    I went Twinzies with my big girl Miley!
    Spring is here so a perfect outfit to get out into the garden and enjoy the first rays of sunshine!

    We want to thank Bobo choses and Polette eyewear for our Mother and daughter twinning outfits! We are loving it!

      We love Polette

      Polette send me the same pair of glasses that we already had bought for my daughter. This way we can twin!

      Polette has beautiful frames and doesn’t pre-produce the frames. Every time someone orders a frame and lenses it is completely produced on demand. This way there is no wasteful overproduction of their collection.

      The frames and lenses are manufactured in their own factory in China by trained optical professionals.

      Their friendly priced prescription glasses are making quality glasses available for everyone. And in a household with 3 glasses-wairing individuals (from-wich 2 kids) we are really happy that with their frames we can afford it to get everyone the high-quality prescription-eyeglasses we need, without having to completely empty all our piggy-banks.

      SHOP the LOOK

      SHOP the LOOK

      Run wild my child

      Run wild my child

      We love to prepare a picknick basket and go out in the woods. Driving to the woods we are hearing all the “where are we going”-’s and “are we there yet”-’s and ” I don’t want to go to the wood”-’s of the world. Yes, our kids are like all the other kids in the world. But once we are there all of that is forgotten and off they go. Climbing trees collecting treasures and building castles.

      We hike for a bit. Find a nice place to lay down a plaid and our stuff as a “home-base”. Chilling and eating and playing around in the shade of the trees. We spot dears, hear the songs the birds are singing to us, the wind blowing through the trees and our wildling cubs howling to the beat of the forest.

      Little feet are making a wonderful crunchy sound as they touch the layered floor of the forest. Every step feels different, little sticks, rocks, bones, grass, and mosses are all hiding under a think mixed layer of old crispy and fresh soft fallen leaves. Making every step an exciting surprise. Walking on barefoot shoes is making our exploration feel natural to the touch and safe against rough undergrounds and sharp objects at the same time.

      All things we normally tend to worry about seeming small and insignificant. No to-do lists, bills to pay, work to do, places to be. Because this is all that matters, this is all we need. Each other and nature. This feels like freedom. Pure happiness.

      We are rich when we leave to go home. Our bounty: A scraped knee, two feathers, seven stones, four leaves, improved tree climbing skills, twelve-spotted dears, hundred stories, and five fully charged inspiration batteries.

      On our way back home our little Quinn falls asleep in the car, Haley is quietly looking out the window and Miley asking us ” this was fun! When can we go back!?”

      As soon as possible my little wildling.

      Love,
      Jolanda, Michiel
      Miley, Haley & Quinn

        We love Wildling shoes

         

         Wildling shoes geared our whole family up with their barefoot shoes and we are loving it! 

        The wonderful feeling of running and climbing barefoot through the forest while being safe against rough undergrounds and sharp objects is amazing! 

        Walking around barefoot or with barefoot schoe, wair doesn’t just feel great. It’s actually really healthy too! The reason why is very well explained here:
        1- In Duch by Linde Logtenberg on her Instagram here!
        2- or in this video by Teck Insider

        We want to thank our partner Wildling shoes  for supporting us and making it possible for us to keep producing our video’s, vlogs and blogs. It’s because of these kind partnerships we get to do what we love most:
        Being creative and sharing our stories and Images!

        Winter garden overview

        Happy new year everyone!

        We collected all Our garden adventures, routines, and preparation for winter and in wintertime. In the wintertime, our garden is in hibernation. We spent most of our time indoors.

        Now that spring has come we shake up the ground and welcome all the new life that is bursting out of the garden! Wood is being chopped for all the campfires to come with the razor-sharp ax that Weltevree has send us ! 

        The lawn is being taken care of with our brand new Hover mower we got send over from BLACK+DECKER and it’s awesome! 

        Check out our full lawn care routine blogpost over here!

         We hope you enjoyed our vlog, when the summer begins we will make a new Garden overview regarding our spring and beginning of the summer season! Until then we will have a lot of other themed video’s coming up for you! See you next time!

        Love,
          Jolanda, Michiel,
        Miley Haley & Quinn

        Self-care tips for moms.

        self-care guide for mothers

        Yes, you are a mom.
        Yes, you are a partner to your other half.
        Yes, you are a career woman
        Yes, you are the woman of the house…
        But YOUR “ME” needs to be taken care of too. That girl without kids, without stress and so many balls in the air… She is still in there! And she needs your love and attention!

        Most moms put their family’s health before their own.  And I am such a mom on occasion. Self-sacrifice is a natural parenting/mom thing that happens instinctively. But Putting Your Family ALLWAYS First at expense of yourself Doesn’t Make You a Better Mom. Actually… It will make you a tired, grumpy, exhausted and stressed mother if you neglect yourself for a longer period. 

        We as moms (have to) take on so many tasks, so many roles, so many faces, so many responsibilities that we tend to bury ourselves in it and carry on way too long.

        And we can take a lot. We are strong woman, and we can carry on for a long time. But we all have our limits. so before hitting a wall and end us completely exhausted and burned up. Maybe try and find, no, MAKE space for your needs. so you can be the best mom they deserve! A lot of the times the other partner/parent does succeed in taking care of themselves. And that’s wonderful! Take note. Now you!

        Some misbelieves that may hold you down:

        • You are NOT selfish for taking care of your mental needs first once in a while.
        • The world won’t crash and burn if you leave others with some responsibilities for a few hours.
        • It does’n have to cost a lot of money.
        • It doesnt have to cost a lot of time.
        • Self-care is not an indulgence, its necessity to stay balanced!
        • You are not neglecting your kids or work. You are actually taking up the responsibility for your own helath!

        What is self-care?
        The better question is: What is self-care to YOU? All the little things you do that will take your stress away, give you a more emotionally balanced, centered feeling and generally makes you feel happier and give you a more positive outlook on life will count as Self-care.

        What makes you happy that you do just for YOU!?
        Take a pen and paper and write down what kind of little fun of relaxing activities you would like to do if you had no responsibilities or stress in the world? (maybe even think back to the time you didn’t have children) There is no right or wrong answer here. Are there little things that need to be resolved that are bugging you? make a list. write down what you need to do to take care of your needs.

        For some that may be taking a long hot bath and read a book or listen to music.
        For others It would be doing Sports, Yoga, painting, or meeting up with your friends and talk, going on a date with your partner, sauna, massage, swimming, writing in a journal, painting your nails! Or maybe all the above! Whatever you can think of that will make you happy, that will make you re-charge. That will get you to exhale for a few seconds and stop rushing.

        For moms of tiny little babies making time for self-care will mean relaxing while having your baby near you but in the care of another person. That way you will be “able” to relax without feeling anxious about leaving your baby or checking your phone every 3 minutes.
        Never let anyone tell you “you need to be away from your baby to relax” if you feel in your heart and stomach that you just don’t want to leave him/her.

         

        It is hard to create space for self-care as a mom

        How to find/create the time

        • The little things
          Small little routines like journaling before going to sleep or cooking a fresh meal in peace. Making up your bed every day.
        • Ask for help.
          What do you need to make it happen? A lot of the times someone will need to take care of the kids for a little while! Your partner will need to pitch in! The other parent in your family can hold the fort while you exhale for a couple of hours. For single parents (SO much respect) that will mean you will have to look for help elsewhere. Your Parents, friends, neighbors, parents of your kid’s friends, anyone you may trust and dare to ask for help! Please, people may surprise you! Lovely mama…Take a deep breath… and just. ask. for. help.
        • Reserve a date and time
          Block a space in your agenda for your self-care moment… now block the 2 hours before that time as a buffer. Better yet, plan at least one moment every week as me-time! It will become easier if this turns in to a little weekly/bi-weekly routine.
        • No Bailing on yourself!
          Take away your biggest stress factors, distractions & excuses to bail on yourself in advanced. Make sure that whatever happens. you will take time for yourself!
          Clear the road!
        • Pick it up again!
          And if you fail to take the time for yourself anyway… no worries! Don’t stress about it. That’s actually the very thing we want to prevent! Life happens. Kids can get sick, plans can change. I fail at it all the time! Whatever. The important thing to remember is… just pick it up again as soon as possible. Re-schedule. You deserve to be happy! And your family deserves a happy mom! You matter!

        Set the right example!

        Want the best for your kids… And how would you like your kids treating themselves as adults later in life!? Lead by example! By showing them that self-care is an important part of life and demonstrating that we all should help each other create space for individual needs they will learn how to take care of themselves and others in a balanced way later in life. And be happier people for it.

         

        Love,
        Jolanda, Michiel
        Miley, Haley & Quinn

        33 Self care inspiration list ideas

        1. Go to yoga class once a week
        2. Take 40 minutes every day to journal and reflect.
        3. Go and have lunch with your best friend!
        4. Take a hot long bath and read a book every week!
        5. Take a nap without an alarm clock
        6. take a walk through nature
        7. Craft something
        8. Go swim for fun
        9. Make art
        10. Sing and Dance like nobody is watching!
        11. Go online and learn a new skill using tutorials!
        12. Listen to a podcast
        13. Go to the gym
        14. De-clutter and re-organise your wardrobe or beauty products
        15. Unplug from social media for a day (or at least a few hours).
        16. Go to the spa
        17. Feeling overwhelmed? Create a plan to create order in the chaos! Start with all the small things so the list gets shorter. Then order the tasks from most-pressing to least-pressing.
        18. Pick flowers
        19. Bake something
        20. Cook something delicious 
        21. Learn 4-8-7 breathing
        22. do some mindfulness exersizes
        23. Write down your life goals and dreams and create an inspirational collage to hang on the toilet! (“toilet” a.k.a. safe space for moms…the only place you can run to for some peace and quiet when the kids are around)Get a massage.
        24. Go hiking, camping, or backpacking and spend some time in nature
        25. Go S.U.B-ing (stand up paddle)
        26. Go on a date with your partner
        27. Sleep in
        28. Do some gardening
        29. Take care of your houseplants.
        30. Restyle a room in the house! Change some pillows rugs, blankets, wallhangings and plants. A little bit of styling can make a big change! (search on Instagram or pintrest for inspiration)
        31. Meditate
        32. Spend 1 on 1 time with one of your kids for some quality time!
        33. Plann your next vacation!

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