Confessions of a yogi

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The #Confessionsofayogi movement is back and they asked me to be one of the hosts of the new #Confessionsofayogi Instagram 7 day yoga challenge from 14 – 20 May 2018!

Huge honor! And of course, I said YES! Time to push myself out of my comfort zone and share some yoga pictures and thoughts!
This cool challenge was powered by TheFatYogis and they are giving a 3-month free access to everyone who joins us for 7 days!!!

SO…Let’s talk SELF IMAGE!!!
Here are the 7 posts I shared during this challenge!

They are just making it up as they go along. And from that moment on, I felt like it was ok to doubt myself, that it was ok to just go for it and see where things will lead me. Not to be certain of anything or scared of failing. Failing is ok. And acting like you are in control does work empowering. But sharing your insecurities fearlessly feels liberating. Allways working on balancing those two things in my life… when to stand tall and proud, and when to share your weaknesses and insecurities to be supported and understood.

So anyone else here not knowing what the hell they’re doing and just winging it in life!? X Jolanda

Day 1 of #Confessionsofayogi

Theme: INSIDE OUT

Who we really feel we are on the inside doesn’t always show on the outside.
Who is your inner you? And how do you let them out?
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There’s the thing… I have no idea of what I’m doing. (SWIPE TO SEE the 3 sec. later photo) Most of the time I’m just improvising. Trying to do the best I can and trusting my instincts while at the same downing every step I’m taking. With everything, I do in life. With work, with raising kids, at home, while traveling, with yoga, with all of this “being an adult” thing. But apparently, the trick is to do everything with an attitude like “yeah, I got this”.I exactly remember the moment as a kid where I had the epiphany, that clear moment of realizing… all the grown-ups are faking it. My teachers, my parents, all the others… all these adults are acting like they know what it’s all about like they have all the answers and loads of self-confidence. But it’s all smoke and mirrors.

Day 2 of #Confessionsofayogi 

Theme: SELF-CONSCIOUS

I TALK A LOT. No, but really a.lot. I can’t help myself. It just pours out of me! Like there’s a direct link between my thoughts and my mouth! The filters in between are paper thin to hold back the most stupid, impulsive or hurtful thoughts, but anything else just flies right out! I’m an open book. Holding back feels like the world upside-down to me. Especially when meeting new people whom I like, look up to, or whom I want to impress or just like me. It all went just fine, and everything was good.
But afterward, I start going over the conversation over and over again in my head… did I talk too much!? Did I say anything stupid, or did I say anything that could be misunderstood!? Did I make a fool out of myself!? A thing like this could keep me feeling like sh*t for hours or even days. And when I get lost in this loop of negative feelings and thoughts, I need @5ofusinabusto pull me out.
It all comes down to this: I am insecure about the impression I leave behind to people because over the years, growing up, I’ve been told so many times that I talk too much. By different people, so it must be true. I’m not able to embrace this or feel confident about it
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Anny chatty people restraining themselves (or unsuccessful trying to) because of what others may think!?
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No matter how cool you feel, there’s always that thing that manages to trigger your insecurities. Is it that body part you hate? Your teeth when you smile? A move you can’t make? The things you say?

Day 3 of #Confessionsofayogi

Theme: ASSETS

RESILIENCE. No matter what life swings at me. I tend to see the positive. I tend to work towards goals. But if I end up in a different place or the goal didn’t meet up to my expectations, I adapt, embrace the situation and see the positive. CHOOSING to enjoy rather than to mope or be angry at the situation.
Being flexible, and not just the body practecing yoga… but being flexible in expectations in life. Optimistic, happy, light, relaxed, resilient. Being able to choose to react that way, and truly feel that way. Finding so many reasons to be happy in the NOW, rather than the “later”. And teaching my kids to find happiness in everyday life.
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Let it shine! Show us, or tell us about that thing that’s just beautiful about you. A move, or a thought, or a part of your body.
We wanna see you shine!!

Day 4 of #Confessionsofayogi

Theme: CROOKED

We’re all at least a little bit crooked. A little weird.
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My crookedness, my WEIRDNESS is just all of me. I’ve never been the one that fits in. I’ve been bullied in school to the extent that I had to change school. I wasn’t just bullied by the kids, I was bullied by the teachers. The kids just followed by example… which is infuriating! Treated differently because I was the weird kid, the one not paying attention, always dreaming, drifted off in my own bubble asking weird questions for a kid like: “how come the galaxy is never ending… and if there is a wall… whats behind it?” or “until how far can we keep on counting” I know, super annoying to a teacher to deal with those kind of questions while trying to teach kids to read. But I was just a kid, and I found school extremely boring.
Thankfully my amazing mom pulled me out just in time and found another school where my creative (monkey brain) mind had a bit more freedom! And there I fitted in a bit more, still the weird one as always. But that was just fine, it was celebrated. It gave me back my self-worth… I accept I’m not what others conceive as “normal”. When most people go left I go right. And thankfully I found someone swimming in the same direction as I did. So now I swim together with @5ofusinabus and our tree beautifully weird little baby girls. And swimming together makes it all so much easier not to care what others may think.
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What crookedness are you blessed with?

At this moment my third baby girl is one year old. And I’m in no rush what so ever to get back like in photo nr.1 that moment will come all on it’s own living a healthy lifestyle and my dna. But that skin is something that will never change! And that’s ok with me! I love my body! I rather have my three baby’s than perfect skin! And I think all moms agree with me! That sh*t doesn’t matter. Love your body! It created LIFE!
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I will post the other challenge posts today and tomorrow. I have some catching up to do!!! So tell me!
How do you change?
The one thing we know for sure is that everything will always change. How do you deal with a changing body? With life changes? How does that impact your self-image?

So better late then never here’s my
Day 5 of #Confessionsofayogi

Theme: CHANGE

This first picture is a #latergram and was took on 1,5 year after baby number two. Healthy habits like eating good food, doing yoga and a looot of patience got me to that point. But don’t think my belly was just as it was before having kids. My skin had changed a lot. This photo is a result of good lighting and good posture. My belly was this flat, but not all the time. After eating curtain things I do get a bit bloated. But the biggest change my body had made was that my skin was (and still is) looking a bit funny too in certain positions…

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Click on the image to ENLARGE the photo!

Check out my perfectly “imperfect” belly/skin. LOVE YOUR (MOM)BODY!!!

Yes still on it! Here my
Day 6 of #Confessionsofayogi

Theme: OVERCOME

Overcoming something right now… I typed a very long caption about how I overcome things on a daily basis. And now I have to type it all over again because Instagram just posted my picture without any caption. Just blank! Aghhh! So frustrating! 😥
So here we go again… 😞
I’m a bit of a control freak, so whenever I find myself in a frustrating, scary, uncomfortable situation I’m not able too just sit there and to nothing. So I always try to do something about either the situation or my way if reacting to the situation. I don’t like to have negative feelings or thoughts. But I’m not going to let my own fears and insecurities hold me back. So I keep on talking to (new) people even do I know it could hunt me for days (read challenge day 2 post) or something like putting a new vlog or blog post online. Clicking on the “publish” button is really scary stuff. But I do it anyway. Taking a deep breath and just JUMP! What’s the worst thing that could happen!? Life is to short. .
That feeling of levelling up, of transcending. When you’ve been bothered about things about yourself for so long, and then one day you overcome it. The stuff that most bothered you might even have become your pride.
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How do you change?

Day 7 of #Confessionsofayogi

Theme: EMPOWER

Well I think at this moment in life, this ” Mom thing” is overwhelming, fun, hard and crazy but above all else, it’s by far the most empowering thing I have ever experienced
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What empowers you most? What is it you do, or feel, or experience that boosts everything for you? That turns darkness into light?
Show us your empowered you!

 

 

 

 

 

And that’s it!

I loved to think about these themes and what they meant to me!
Yoga is about so much more than just a series of movements.
It was so nice to read all of the other participant posts and seeing so many honest and sincere yoga posts on Instagram!
Such a lovely community!

Do you ever take part in Instagram (yoga) challenges!?
I would love to hear about it!

10 ways to fight off the “Blue monday” blues!

The days are short, no Christmas or new years eve to look forward to, it all went by so fast and all your left with are some extra pounds!  The weather isn’t really making your day, most of the new year’s resolutions are already out the window… which makes you feel shit about yourself. So much to do and it feels like the summer is so, so far away! And you just feel so extremely tired and unmotivated and just maybe a little down.

Well, maybe you have a mild case of a little winter depression. Don’t worry, it won’t last that long.
The most depressing day this year is tomorrow! (January 15)
But here’s the upside: If thats the low-point, it’s all up from there! This year is only getting better from tomorrow on!
So YAY to that!

But first surviving the low-point, Blue Monday coming up!
Michiel and me went out to get some quality time together with coffee and conversations at Coffee & Cacao in Monnickendam!

Get ready to fight the blues with us! These are my 10 tips to cheer up your spirit upcoming weeks!

About the BLUE MONDAY
Blue Monday is a name given to a day in January (typically the third Monday of the month) claimed to be the most depressing day of the year. This date was picked taking many factors into consideration, including weather conditions, shorter daytime, debt level (the difference between debt accumulated and our ability to pay), time since Christmas, time since failing our new year’s resolutions, low motivational levels and feeling of a need to take action.

Blue Monday this year (2018)
is on January 15.

Photography: Michiel Fook & Jolanda Marti
Location: Coffee & Cacao   Monnickendam, the Netherlands

1- Meet friends

Chill out with your friends, talk to them, have a drink, compare stories, talk about the fun stuff like:  vacation plans, remodeling the house plans, getting a puppy and all other exciting things/hopes/dreams/plans coming up. And talk about the less fun stuff like things that are going bad, negative feelings, and problems. A friend can help you put things in perspective and can help you think of a way to make it better. But at the least, you can get things off your chest and gives you a moment to vent! And that in itself tends to help a lot to make you feel better!

Have a drink, eat, talk, laugh, cry and toast to an amazing year to come!

2- Spa Sauna day

That tension will just fall right off your back in a few hours of pampering and warm temperatures!
You deserve this! After all those months of hard work, you are allowed to treat yourself!

This is the best time to reload, just when you need it the most!
So if you could afford to go to a spa at least once a year, this would be the perfect time to plan it in.
This way your visit to the spa will have maximum effect. I’m sure it will make you feel so relaxed, inspired and positive so that you’ll be able to get back in the ring and hit the ground running on whatever challenges are lying ahead upcoming months!

3-(‎Bring the kids to grandma and) Go on a date!

For all the childless people: Get off the couch and go do something FUN!!! That’s your excuse!? Go NOW! Have fun! Or if you’re tired of that stuff: Pick up your little neeses and nephews (you will make their parent’s day) and skip to point 3 of this list!

For all the parents: Yayyyy we are going to grandma and grandpa Kids!!! Sleepover! So Exiting! The kids will be over the moon!
And we are too! What would we do without our social safety net, our parents, our friends, our family! So grateful to have them in our lives! And don’t be afraid to ask for a bit of help when you really need it! We parents often go on and on way too long before breaking down… Look after yourselves and your relationship, take the time to talk to each other. Especially with 2+ kids, you will need a break from being a parent sometimes to be a partner instead, give each other your undivided attention.

We love our kids to pieces, but there are things we miss doing together. Before there where kids, it was just us two. And you had the time to do things without entertaining a kid or you could plan a day out with all fun grownup things!
Remember the last time you could just sit at a table for two and enjoy a cup of coffee and a conversation, followed by a visit to a museum? Or go out to dinner and watch a movie after? Or… whatever you would like to without having to worry of whatever your mini is doing… But just for a little moment just be the two of you again.

And guess what!? After a few hours, you’ll see! You will miss them! And when you go and pick them up, you will have the energy to be more fun and patient parent for weeks to come!

 

4-‎ Bake cookies a cake or something else!

Yes! Nothing gives the house that cozy warm happy feel to it than the smell of fresh baked cookies or big delicious apple pie!
This is also amazing to do with your kids. Its fun to do when you’re making it… it smells amazing when your backing it and it makes everyone happy when you’re eating it! Yay! (writing this makes me hungry)

5-Movie Night!

Do a Netflix movie night at home with blankets, homemade popcorn and hot coco!
If you’re going to be a couch potato… be a proper couch potato like a pro! Make things as decadent and comfortable as possible!
Turn that couch into Movie watching heaven! Wait until the kids are asleep and Watch at least 2 movies with your favorite (healthy) snacks!

6-Go outside!!!

Put on your warmest coat and go outside! Take a walk in the park or go on a hike through nature! I know its tempting to stay indoors under a cozy blanket, but going outside will give your body and mind the chance to reload, get some movement, breath some fresh air and get some of that vitamin D in your system!

A walk outside may just give you that little extra energy and positivity to get other stuff going that will get you back on a positive track again!

7- Go swimming!

Yes, you heard me! even doh its cold outside! Especially with the kids! Go and make some swimming bags, put on your swimsuit and go to an indoor tropical swim-paradise! Just use that imagination and act like you’re on a tropical island adventure! Play, jump, have fun! And be in the moment! when you’re back home everyone will get all fuzzy and tired and everyone will sleep like a rose that night! On behalf of your kids, can i just say… Best-Day-Ever!  And happy kids = happy parents!

8- Get creative!

We love to watch our favorite tv series or watch a movie, but a few times a week we leave the tv off, put on some nice music, pour ourselves a drink and just get creative! We do or create whatever we feel like. Like a nice and relaxed art-jam. Most of the times its just the two of us, but over the years we have organized a few art-jam-nights with friends so we can be creative and inspire each other. Being creative is such a wide concept, it could be a drawing, painting, writing, brainstorming on some ideas in a notebook, making new clothes, doing something with your interior, it can be a small project or a big one, and if I could, I would love to make music. (something that’s definitely on my bucket list) but I don’t have those skills yet, so we just keep it at just listening to music for now!

Being creative is great for stress relief. Everyone is talented in some way or another! The problem is that people tend to stress on the fact that whatever they are creating should be “good enough” and that is such a big roadblock. Art cant be wrong, as long as you enjoy making it! Don’t be so hard on yourself and try to have fun!

9- Take care of your health!

Yes I know you’re tired and feeling like eating junk food on the coutch, and that is’n the end of the world. But try and balance that out with lots of delicious fresh fruits and veggies! Combine that with a nice workout or a yoga session and you will definitely feel better and energized with and get all those nice endorphins flowing! That way it’s okay to relax and chill out and eat cookies on some other nights and you get the best of both worlds. Having those two in balance will make all the difference. No extreme health and workout regimes or extreme couch potato-laziness (and all the guilt and tiredness that come with that).

Finding the right balance is hard in the dark winter days after all the holidays already far behind us and still a lot of winter days to go.
But a little bit of movement and extra vitamins will give you the kickstart you need to get up and smile again.

10- Bring some green into the house.

Most of the trees outside have lost their leaves months ago and it will still take a few months for the new fresh leaves to grow back.
Plants are air purifiers. They help remove dangerous compounds from fuels, furnishings, and clothing. They help you feel healthy, happy and fights depression! It also makes you focus better, brings out your creativity and calms you!

So go and get yourself some plant-babies!
Tip: look for palms if you’re looking for some low-maintenance greens in your home!

 

So tell us!? Have you got a bad case of the Blue Monday Blues?
Do you have additional tips? Leave us your experiences in the comments!

x Jolanda

Any where. Any time. No exceptions.

My baby hungry!? My baby gets a little milk. No exeptions.

I’m feeling hurt and judged. And i’m sick of it!
She is a baby! She needs to eat too. No i’m not giving her a bottle. The bottle is silver, my own milk is gold, and she deserves gold. Always.  If i’m not giving her my breast when she needs it, i’m not only taking away her food. I’m breastfeeding her because she is fragile, because she needs the antibodies, because she needs to grow, because she needs her brain to develop, because she needs a rest, because she needs to eat and drink, because she needs to feel safe and nurtured and loved, because she needs her mom. And i need her.

People sending us away, or shaming us for breastfeeding in public, is a sign of their own ignorance and twisted backwards minds.
In their mind, the only purpose of breast is sexual. Therefore (partially) seeing them attached to a little baby, is also a sexual act.
That infuriates me. It’s the world upside down. It’s wrong to think like that.
I’ts so mean and unfair to force such an ugly opinion on to others.

Breast are attached to our bodies to feed babies.
Off course i get that they can be sexual too, but only in the right occasion, the right setting.

If you are feeding a baby, you attend to the baby’s fundamental needs and rights. There is absolutely no sexual thing about it.
In fact, a mother feeding her child is sweet, endearing, natural and completely normal.

A mother should never have to feel ashamed to feed her child. Anywhere, anytime, No exceptions.

Text: Jolanda Marti
Photography: Jolanda Marti (selfportrait)

❤ Lente! Lekker half-schaduwplekje bij mama ???? #lente #spring #shade @melkpunt #borstvoeding #breastfeeding #keepthemclose

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Those eyes slowly turning blue... ?

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❤? #multitasking #breastfeeding #working #love

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Bring your kid to work day. ??

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