Four questions I ask myself on what to wear!

Four questions I ask myself before I decide what I’m wearing that day!
As a busy mommy of three girls, a Wedding photography business and a fanatic adventurer I absolutely need to wear clothes that fit me comfortable and makes me feel confident in whatever I have planned for the day!

1. MOOD

How do I feel? 
Most of the time that is highly depending on my plans for the day and the weather.
But factors, like having lots of energy or being tired, feeling creative, feeling sexy, happy or sad, are all things that are pushing me towards that jumpsuit or that yellow dress instead!

2. COMFY

Everything I wear must feel comfortable on me! I need to be able to move.
Try running after a three-year-old a one-year-old and a seven-year-old In a super long maxi-dress and a pair of beautiful stiletto’s
Or photographing a wedding in a cute pencil skirt.
Nope. I need clothes that fit me perfectly and allow me to MOVE freely.
I do actually have a pencil skirt in my closet i love… but there it stays because I just never feel like wairing it.
And I rarely wair jeans, because my vagina doesn’t agree to be all crammed and crushed by a pair of stiff jeans. I get all itchy especially if I have an office day where i sit a lot in a chair and just No, nope nope nope. Stretchy pants, leggings, loose-fitting stuff preferably from natural materials, or just my panties under a nice little dress.

3. TEMPERATURES 

What is the weather like?
YAY sunshine!!! So I put on my happy little yellow dress and jump outside… and immediately run back inside to get myself a nice pair of stockings and a warm vest. Oops! Sunshiney day’s in March can be deceiving! So temperatures are nice to know before choosing my outfit! Oh yes, and I go by the onion-method a lot! Layers so I can peel off whenever I get too hot or put them back on when I get to warm.

4. BREASTFEEDING

Can I easily pop a boob out for breastfeeding my baby?
With my first baby, it happened to me a couple of times. We were out somewhere, baby got hungry and started screaming.
And me wearing a cute little A-line dress with high neckline. The only way of getting that boob out was to pull my dress up all the way to my breast! Which meant I felt like I pracktecly had to strip down naked to feed her. We managed to find a solution. but it’s not very convenient!
So: Something with a low round or V-neckline or something that can be opened up in the front or the back with a zipper.

So when I wake up in a happy mood feeling like dancing and the sun is out making it the perfect summers day…
I wear something like this!

Happy summer days everyone! We are loving these temperatures! What are you wearing today! Let me know on my insta or in the comments below!  x

Photography: Michiel Fook

Confessions of a yogi

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The #Confessionsofayogi movement is back and they asked me to be one of the hosts of the new #Confessionsofayogi Instagram 7 day yoga challenge from 14 – 20 May 2018!

Huge honor! And of course, I said YES! Time to push myself out of my comfort zone and share some yoga pictures and thoughts!
This cool challenge was powered by TheFatYogis and they are giving a 3-month free access to everyone who joins us for 7 days!!!

SO…Let’s talk SELF IMAGE!!!
Here are the 7 posts I shared during this challenge!

They are just making it up as they go along. And from that moment on, I felt like it was ok to doubt myself, that it was ok to just go for it and see where things will lead me. Not to be certain of anything or scared of failing. Failing is ok. And acting like you are in control does work empowering. But sharing your insecurities fearlessly feels liberating. Allways working on balancing those two things in my life… when to stand tall and proud, and when to share your weaknesses and insecurities to be supported and understood.

So anyone else here not knowing what the hell they’re doing and just winging it in life!? X Jolanda

Day 1 of #Confessionsofayogi

Theme: INSIDE OUT

Who we really feel we are on the inside doesn’t always show on the outside.
Who is your inner you? And how do you let them out?
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There’s the thing… I have no idea of what I’m doing. (SWIPE TO SEE the 3 sec. later photo) Most of the time I’m just improvising. Trying to do the best I can and trusting my instincts while at the same downing every step I’m taking. With everything, I do in life. With work, with raising kids, at home, while traveling, with yoga, with all of this “being an adult” thing. But apparently, the trick is to do everything with an attitude like “yeah, I got this”.I exactly remember the moment as a kid where I had the epiphany, that clear moment of realizing… all the grown-ups are faking it. My teachers, my parents, all the others… all these adults are acting like they know what it’s all about like they have all the answers and loads of self-confidence. But it’s all smoke and mirrors.

Day 2 of #Confessionsofayogi 

Theme: SELF-CONSCIOUS

I TALK A LOT. No, but really a.lot. I can’t help myself. It just pours out of me! Like there’s a direct link between my thoughts and my mouth! The filters in between are paper thin to hold back the most stupid, impulsive or hurtful thoughts, but anything else just flies right out! I’m an open book. Holding back feels like the world upside-down to me. Especially when meeting new people whom I like, look up to, or whom I want to impress or just like me. It all went just fine, and everything was good.
But afterward, I start going over the conversation over and over again in my head… did I talk too much!? Did I say anything stupid, or did I say anything that could be misunderstood!? Did I make a fool out of myself!? A thing like this could keep me feeling like sh*t for hours or even days. And when I get lost in this loop of negative feelings and thoughts, I need @5ofusinabusto pull me out.
It all comes down to this: I am insecure about the impression I leave behind to people because over the years, growing up, I’ve been told so many times that I talk too much. By different people, so it must be true. I’m not able to embrace this or feel confident about it
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Anny chatty people restraining themselves (or unsuccessful trying to) because of what others may think!?
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No matter how cool you feel, there’s always that thing that manages to trigger your insecurities. Is it that body part you hate? Your teeth when you smile? A move you can’t make? The things you say?

Day 3 of #Confessionsofayogi

Theme: ASSETS

RESILIENCE. No matter what life swings at me. I tend to see the positive. I tend to work towards goals. But if I end up in a different place or the goal didn’t meet up to my expectations, I adapt, embrace the situation and see the positive. CHOOSING to enjoy rather than to mope or be angry at the situation.
Being flexible, and not just the body practecing yoga… but being flexible in expectations in life. Optimistic, happy, light, relaxed, resilient. Being able to choose to react that way, and truly feel that way. Finding so many reasons to be happy in the NOW, rather than the “later”. And teaching my kids to find happiness in everyday life.
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Let it shine! Show us, or tell us about that thing that’s just beautiful about you. A move, or a thought, or a part of your body.
We wanna see you shine!!

Day 4 of #Confessionsofayogi

Theme: CROOKED

We’re all at least a little bit crooked. A little weird.
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My crookedness, my WEIRDNESS is just all of me. I’ve never been the one that fits in. I’ve been bullied in school to the extent that I had to change school. I wasn’t just bullied by the kids, I was bullied by the teachers. The kids just followed by example… which is infuriating! Treated differently because I was the weird kid, the one not paying attention, always dreaming, drifted off in my own bubble asking weird questions for a kid like: “how come the galaxy is never ending… and if there is a wall… whats behind it?” or “until how far can we keep on counting” I know, super annoying to a teacher to deal with those kind of questions while trying to teach kids to read. But I was just a kid, and I found school extremely boring.
Thankfully my amazing mom pulled me out just in time and found another school where my creative (monkey brain) mind had a bit more freedom! And there I fitted in a bit more, still the weird one as always. But that was just fine, it was celebrated. It gave me back my self-worth… I accept I’m not what others conceive as “normal”. When most people go left I go right. And thankfully I found someone swimming in the same direction as I did. So now I swim together with @5ofusinabus and our tree beautifully weird little baby girls. And swimming together makes it all so much easier not to care what others may think.
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What crookedness are you blessed with?

At this moment my third baby girl is one year old. And I’m in no rush what so ever to get back like in photo nr.1 that moment will come all on it’s own living a healthy lifestyle and my dna. But that skin is something that will never change! And that’s ok with me! I love my body! I rather have my three baby’s than perfect skin! And I think all moms agree with me! That sh*t doesn’t matter. Love your body! It created LIFE!
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I will post the other challenge posts today and tomorrow. I have some catching up to do!!! So tell me!
How do you change?
The one thing we know for sure is that everything will always change. How do you deal with a changing body? With life changes? How does that impact your self-image?

So better late then never here’s my
Day 5 of #Confessionsofayogi

Theme: CHANGE

This first picture is a #latergram and was took on 1,5 year after baby number two. Healthy habits like eating good food, doing yoga and a looot of patience got me to that point. But don’t think my belly was just as it was before having kids. My skin had changed a lot. This photo is a result of good lighting and good posture. My belly was this flat, but not all the time. After eating curtain things I do get a bit bloated. But the biggest change my body had made was that my skin was (and still is) looking a bit funny too in certain positions…

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Check out my perfectly “imperfect” belly/skin. LOVE YOUR (MOM)BODY!!!

Yes still on it! Here my
Day 6 of #Confessionsofayogi

Theme: OVERCOME

Overcoming something right now… I typed a very long caption about how I overcome things on a daily basis. And now I have to type it all over again because Instagram just posted my picture without any caption. Just blank! Aghhh! So frustrating! 😥
So here we go again… 😞
I’m a bit of a control freak, so whenever I find myself in a frustrating, scary, uncomfortable situation I’m not able too just sit there and to nothing. So I always try to do something about either the situation or my way if reacting to the situation. I don’t like to have negative feelings or thoughts. But I’m not going to let my own fears and insecurities hold me back. So I keep on talking to (new) people even do I know it could hunt me for days (read challenge day 2 post) or something like putting a new vlog or blog post online. Clicking on the “publish” button is really scary stuff. But I do it anyway. Taking a deep breath and just JUMP! What’s the worst thing that could happen!? Life is to short. .
That feeling of levelling up, of transcending. When you’ve been bothered about things about yourself for so long, and then one day you overcome it. The stuff that most bothered you might even have become your pride.
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How do you change?

Day 7 of #Confessionsofayogi

Theme: EMPOWER

Well I think at this moment in life, this ” Mom thing” is overwhelming, fun, hard and crazy but above all else, it’s by far the most empowering thing I have ever experienced
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What empowers you most? What is it you do, or feel, or experience that boosts everything for you? That turns darkness into light?
Show us your empowered you!

 

 

 

 

 

And that’s it!

I loved to think about these themes and what they meant to me!
Yoga is about so much more than just a series of movements.
It was so nice to read all of the other participant posts and seeing so many honest and sincere yoga posts on Instagram!
Such a lovely community!

Do you ever take part in Instagram (yoga) challenges!?
I would love to hear about it!

Pinknova Parade

We had a Great time at the Pink Nova Parade Meeting all our babywearing friends and taking a close look at all those beautiful woven baby wraps with lots and lots of sleepy dust! Here’s an overview of our day!

Photography: Michiel Fook

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Bohemian Workmode

Photography: Wild & BOHO – Michiel Fook

I’m a creative! And by being a self-proclaimed artist I think I earned the right to always wear whatever I feel like.
I do have to attend a business meeting sometimes because that comes with the territory of having your own business.
I still have to discover the “business suit” that feels right to me. And if someone doesn’t like my style, they have no business working with me…so basically, every day, is casual Friday for me! That being said, I do have a “working mode” style. Whenever I go to meetings I like to wear pants and really high heels. because that makes me feel extra confident and powerful! I like flowing fabrics and I’m not scared of a little bit of color.

For example these Comfortable Paper Bag Waist Pants. I just love the balance between Stylish but not like I’m trying too hard. I love to combine it with a cute flowered blouse because I’m always a flower girl wherever i go, and my mustard-yellow winter trenchcoat which is totally giving me positive vibes whenever I put it on. Of course, I’m bringing my trusted leather bag with me where I can easily fit all of my papers, tablet, and agenda in, and off I go!

Do you dare/are you allowed to be yourself in your business meetings?
I can definitely recommend it!

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Soft winter at the Harbour

Soft winter at the Harbour

You have those harsh winter days, and those days where it’s really not necessary to wear a heavy coat but a vest will do just fine! We love our beautiful, luxurious heavy winter coats, but with a few knitted layers on it feels so much lighter and still warm without the restricted movability that a winter coat brings… So comfortable!

Michiel is a cap, hat or beanie wearing kind of guy so you will almost always find him with something on his head.  Now we’re all grown up I just love these stylish duotone caps with mixed materials. which give the cap a bit more classic feel, instead of sporty look.

Allways nice to mix things up a bit especially in the winter when temperatures can fluctuate so much in Holland!
We are wondering, where do you guys live!?

Photography: Jolanda Marti

 

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Mindful parenting

Mindful parenting
How to be in the moment as a parent when your mind still is racing, thinking about everything that has been keeping you busy. Being a Mindful parent isn’t easy! So Learn from your kids! They are experts in experiencing and enjoying the present… They know best! Stop overthinking everything and start living in the “NOW”

Last September we went on an unexpected adventure somewhere in the dunes near Zandvoort in Holland. The kids were laughing and running and playing from the moment we stepped out of the van… But for me, it really took me a while to let go of my constant train of thought, let go of my worries, plans, and huge todo list. Until I realized what I was doing to myself and them. I wasn’t really there with them. I was missing out on all the fun while I was too buzzy being an adult!

So in that moment, I thought:  That’s it! I’m done adulting!
And guess what!? I had the best day ever!

Having trouble living in the moment as a parent!? Jump in there with your kids and just allow yourself to fully embrace the fun!
Wo’s with me!?

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